MrHo
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Post by MrHo on Dec 23, 2013 13:07:26 GMT 7
Sometimes we have embarrasing situations in daily life. I usually caught myself "red-face" or having clumsy behavior in such that cases. That's why I'd like to raise this question. Specifically, I want to know : - a) what i should do when someone straightly told he or she didn't like something from me. Is that solution different if the speaker is at some higher rank or lower rank in my working environment ?
- b) what i should do when a pity kid or very poor old woman approached me, and offered me buying his or her lottery tickets.
Please help ! Deeply thanks for all nice advices and comments.
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tdd
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Post by tdd on Dec 25, 2013 17:43:22 GMT 7
Do khá là ngu tiếng anh, nên em sẽ xin phép góp ý bằng tiếng việt ạ 1/em nghĩ trong trường hợp này nên bình tĩnh xem xét lời nhận xét của họ, tìm hiểu kỹ nguyên nhân, có thể là chủ quan và khách quan, nếu đúng thì cần phải sửa, và nếu họ sai thì mình phải giải thích cho họ. 2/đối với cá nhân em thì em sẽ không cần biết ai đang offer, chỉ quan tâm là nếu em có nhu cầu, và người đó thuyết phục được em mua hàng thì em sẽ mua, bởi vì ai cũng có hoàn cảnh riêng của mình, và tiền thì cần được để đúng chỗ
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Post by MrHo on Dec 25, 2013 18:37:31 GMT 7
1/em nghĩ trong trường hợp này nên bình tĩnh xem xét lời nhận xét của họ, tìm hiểu kỹ nguyên nhân, có thể là chủ quan và khách quan, nếu đúng thì cần phải sửa, và nếu họ sai thì mình phải giải thích cho họ. 2/đối với cá nhân em thì em sẽ không cần biết ai đang offer, chỉ quan tâm là nếu em có nhu cầu, và người đó thuyết phục được em mua hàng thì em sẽ mua, bởi vì ai cũng có hoàn cảnh riêng của mình, và tiền thì cần được để đúng chỗ Hi Tdd, thanks much for your kind advice I highly appreciated indeed !This forum category and its threads is supposed to aim at developing your skills in written english. And I strongly believe that all of you, guys and gals, being enough capable of common english to describe your ideas and emotions. What needed most is your confidence and willingness in practising english. Let's go, my friend ! As you and others can see, my english writing is not proficient too. But i've had an experience of this my skill improving on my way of learning trading in the old days, when Vietnam was still in less developed, internet was quite new to anyone around, and no one knew who and where were sharing knowledge in my interested field. I approached to international trading forums like ForexFactory, forum-invest.org, etc. to learn and develop my own trading experience. That's the only chance, the only way for me at that moment - and my english writing skill needed on that purpose. That's my point ! So You must make choice : be confident and develop yourself and enjoy your own way, or keep hidden and let your life goes on its indefinite way. I won't tell much more, don't want to be talkative here. Back to your comment above, here are some translation tips first for you: trong trường hợp này = in this case bình tĩnh xem xét ... = keep calm in considering ... những nguyên nhân chủ quan và khách quan = subjective and objective causes đối với cá nhân tôi ... = in my opinion (often abbreviated as IMO) ai cũng có hoàn cảnh riêng ... đúng chỗ = ....... (this idea is very important and interesting, you should try yourself to find how best to describe your central idea here, if not possible tell me later ) Now would you please do me a favour, Tdd ?! Connecting the dots and restate your ideas sharing in english. Little by little, we and members around can do great things someday ! Regards, mrho
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Post by ditruocvesau on Dec 26, 2013 22:50:54 GMT 7
Today i have a chance to meet a teacher from Australia. His parent are Vietnamese but he was born in Australia. He is a teacher and he know Vietnamese well because he had lived in VietNam for 2 years. So he said that: the main problem of Vietnamese people is they are too shy, they scare of making mistakes. But you cannot be better if you don't try. When you try people will recognize your mistakes and correct it for you. He told me about the education in Australia and i think it's so different from our country. Students in Australia, they don't scare of making mistakes. In work, can we be shy ? In " Cua gái" can we be shy? Everyone just lives one time. Why are we shy ? kakaka
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Post by ditruocvesau on Dec 26, 2013 23:06:01 GMT 7
About Mr Ho problem, in case A i don't have idea to solve but in case B when someone offer me to buy lottery specially a kid or an old men, i just smile and say: sorry, thank you. In man cases, they smile to me and go. I agree with tdd and I think you cannot help all of them.
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MrHo
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Post by MrHo on Dec 28, 2013 17:51:36 GMT 7
Hi tdd and ditruocvesau, in latter case, would your answer change if you're having a lot of money in your pocket at that time (just earning from salary or something like that), and it't not harmful at all if you'll extract a few coins to meet pity boy's lottery offer ? Just in case, please don't misunderstand me huh
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Post by pepsicogaz on Jan 18, 2014 20:51:50 GMT 7
In case a: I have two question. _Do you have a deeper relationship with him/her? _Does "Some thing" related to your work? If I have a deeper relationship with one guy who told me he didn't like something from me. I will show him my perceive about that. And debate if necessary. If not I will say:" Cám ơn vì đã chia sẻ". If "some thing" related to my work or his/her work. I will follow my higher rank mind and backwards. I can't write more because my little vocabulary.
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Post by rubidi on Feb 17, 2014 0:17:42 GMT 7
I'm sorry for my limited knowledge about English (may cause some mistake on my writing) but somehow, I got a little bit interested in your situations, however, I still have the same reactions when I met those situations and this is some opinions that I've known or read in books In the 1st case: _ If they say they don't like "something" about u, it's true. But these "something" should be reasonable, at least with your thinking,it's not mean "something" wrong => it's faulty _If they are brave enough to tell you st wrong => they really care about you (both negative and positive, perhaps) _Finally, don't let anyone destroy your day by thinking about what they said. The hardest work in the world is "Changing the people mind" About the 2nd one: I used to join a class of "How to administrate your budget" they said that, whatever how much on your budget, spend about 10% for charity (it's just a resonable advice for giving out ur money in order to not regret) That's my ideas support for ur case,thought. Hopefully it's helpful for ya, or at least easy to understand
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MrHo
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Post by MrHo on Feb 17, 2014 15:25:45 GMT 7
Thanks "rubidi". I love most the phrase "... in order to not regret." in your post. How sweet your soul I can feel! Thanks for all. You make my day !
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Post by rubidi on Feb 17, 2014 23:04:58 GMT 7
You're welcome Pro Mr.Ho, “If you’re in the luckiest one per cent of humanity, you owe it to the rest of humanity to think about the other 99 per cent.” ― Warren Buffett
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thieny
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Post by thieny on Feb 17, 2014 23:19:42 GMT 7
in my opinion, i think: 1st case: if i was wrong, i'll very appreciate him/her for telling me what he/she doesnt like about me. If i was right, and he/she was wrong, i'll explain to him/her clearly 2nd case: with me, I haven't buy any lottery ticket yet, i dont believe in my luck , but i always give the poor or the homeless a little money i had at that time. I think that is the best thing i can do for them at the moment, and i really feel peace in my mind So u should do the same Just my thoughts and sorry for my bad english:D
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Post by rubidi on Feb 18, 2014 0:38:55 GMT 7
Oh, I think ur idea's great, Thieny, whatever, there some my own opinions support for ya: - So, how you know, you're right or wrong? Actually, there's no any clearly border between right or wrong ideas. Maybe it was right for u, but in the other's point of view, that's faulty. So what's in ur mind now? Futhermore, what will u handle if the more u explain the more they try not to understand u ( because u think u're right, yes, so do they) It's quite complicated case - 2nd case: How the generous u are! I approciate ur ideas. However, I think every ppl got their choices according to the positions, "should" is likely to force ppl follow the sample, but it's still a good sample. Like it much!
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Post by thieny on Feb 18, 2014 10:55:01 GMT 7
Thank u rubidi, my english is not good enough to show all my thoughts . I think "should" in this case is "should" do sth, not "force" to do sth.
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Post by rubidi on Feb 18, 2014 21:29:10 GMT 7
ok, now I got your ideas clearly Thieny. oh, I think ur E is quite good. Perhaps u are really good at French, don't u? (I mean ur signature, I'm really curious what's it showing? ha, sorry for my curiosity )
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thieny
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Post by thieny on Feb 19, 2014 22:45:35 GMT 7
non, my french is really bad
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